Seeing Baby Boy Again, Ultrasound 3

Today was my second trimester ultrasound. I was excited to see my baby again!  photo ultrasoundprofile_zps1467b99a.jpg

Everything measured perfectly. And I got quite the view of his little boy parts! He was not a shy boy during this ultrasound! ha  photo ultrasoundwiener_zps4d6daf09.jpg

These photos look different from each other because some are scans of printed pictures and some are actually screen captures from the DVD video they gave me!  photo ultrasoundleg_zps02f2b02f.jpg

My ultrasound technician is really talented at what she does. She works in a facility where they only do ultrasounds and specialize in genetic tests. She spent lots of time checking out every little part of my baby. I was really enjoying watching her work, seeing all the organs and my baby’s limbs measuring perfectly, functioning perfectly.
She was having trouble, at first, getting a good shot of his hands because he kept sucking on them during the ultrasound. Or he’d have them nestled up under his chin or holding his head. But the glimpses we were seeing revealed what looked like webbed fingers.

The more time she spent, the additional angles, all pointed to something called syndactyly type III. That’s the “fancy” medical term for what is essentially webbed fingers. My boy’s pinky and ring fingers seem to be fused together on both hands.  photo ultrasoundhand3_zps4e36f4c0.jpg photo ultrasoundhand2_zps74d9d76f.jpg

Type III:
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This information settled in my mind in a few different ways. At the very beginning it made no difference to me and really didn’t cause me much worry. I know someone whose son had syndactyly type 1 and he had surgery when he was around 18 months old and everything went perfectly fine.

The doctor came in to discuss everything and tell me that they had no reason to believe that my son had any other chromosome issues and it was likely an isolated “problem” that was a relatively easy fix after he was born. He suggested another ultrasound in 4 weeks to check up on the baby’s hands and see if they can get even better views. And then at that point I should get in touch with a pediatric surgeon. He went on giving me good information and talking about all the things that will come in the future.
The only part that wasn’t ideal was when he referred to my baby as having a birth defect.
Of course his hands do have birth defects but, without having even seen my son or his hands- I’m attached to him and everything about him is perfection to me. To hear the words birth defects hit it home that something about my son is considered “wrong” by others.

It started to hurt to think of all the sure-to-come appointments and questions and attention surrounding my baby’s hands.
And then as I drove home, despite being told otherwise, I started to wonder if I was to blame for this. Had I done something to cause this?? I thought back to the first two months of my pregnancy when his hands were forming and I’d never eaten healthier in my life. But I had a mysterious illness that caused hives all over my legs back then… could that have been it?! Could it have been because we were using spermicide when he was conceived?!? On and on I considered what grave mistake I must have made to do this to my baby.

And then came the tears. Not that my baby has something “wrong” with his hands, but the idea of surgery on him when he’s so small. He’ll have to go under general anesthesia, he’ll have painful recovery time and he’ll only be 3-6 months old! My poor baby!! I still have sadness that he’ll go through that but there’s nothing I can do but hope for the best and love him in the meantime. And I really love my baby. I feel so much movement these days and every time my heart surges. My perfect son, I really love this little boy.

Being completely ignorant about my son’s hands I, of course, googled when I got home. I also talked to my friend whose son had the same thing. She was a wealth of information πŸ™‚
If you’re curious, here are some easy to read links that explain syndactyly. Or in layman’s terms, webbed fingers. I think they both specifically mention syndactyly type III (the type my baby has) and what it means for the baby.
Seattle Children’s
Washington University Orthopedics

I also have a few pictures of the little kids that I’ll go ahead and throw in here. When I got home from my ultrasound I showed the kids all the pictures and videos of the ultrasound. They were a bundle of excitement thinking and talking about their brother. Ember fully gets that there’s a baby coming now and talks daily about our baby boy. The kids overheard me talking to Allan about the baby’s webbed fingers and the older girls started asking about it. We explained it to them and geez, the sweetness and pure love of kids really is amazing. They saw nothing wrong with the idea of his fingers being fused together and when we explained why we’d have to have them surgically separated they were so sad for him. They’re already protective of their baby brother.  photo 006eresized_zps5dda3c87.jpg photo 017eresized_zps8f4e9be1.jpg photo 027eresized_zps527efaaf.jpg photo 029eresized_zps14ff06e4.jpg

6 thoughts on “Seeing Baby Boy Again, Ultrasound 3

  • He is perfect and will be perfectly and completely loved by everyone πŸ™‚ The use of the phrase “birth defect” would have gotten to me, too. That makes it sound like there is a serious genetic issue and something to worry about…but like you said, he's otherwise completely healthy. What a blessing πŸ™‚ I can't wait to see more ultrasound pics of him!!

  • He is perfect!!! I love ultrasound pictures! My niece was born with a cleft lip that was never caught on an ultrasound so it was quite a shock when she was born. She had 2 surgeries before turning one. While it is hard to see her go through the surgeries it is amazing to watch how resilient babies are and how quickly she recovered. Your little guy will be just fine and how wonderful that he has such amazing parents and siblings to support him!

  • You did nothing wrong. Sometimes these things happen and the positive is it can be corrected when he is born and it'll be a cool story for him to tell one day. My DD (now 6) was born with a heart defect which was sheer bad luck. She had open heart surgery when she was 10 weeks old to correct it. And she had a umbilical hernia which was repaired at a year old. So she has the chest scar all the way down to her belly button which isn't even a belly button really. All just sheer bad luck (we had testing and everything done to make sure it didn't repeat). I did all that you did, wondering if I had caused it. I remember trying to push a piano in the living room as it was blocking something else when I was 5 weeks pregnant and then a few days later I had a bleed and was put on bed rest as I had a hematoma right next to baby. Other than that I was super good. Ate the right things, avoided the bad things and so forth. Regardless of what may have caused any of it, the bottom line is my DD is just fine, totally “normal” now and living “defect” free. With my DS I was much less careful and he came out perfectly fine. Your son is going to be awesome. He already is. He's got the love of his parents and 4 siblings who can't wait to meet him. And surgery will do what it needs to do and soon enough, it will all be a distant memory. I rarely think of what we went through in the first year of DD's life. It's like it happened to someone else and looking at DD no one could ever tell what she went through. Hang in there Momma, you're doing a wonderful job!

  • He is perfect!!! I am sorry that day was a rough one and I could see becoming upset, however he is in good hands and so very lucky to have an amazing family to welcome him. Enjoy your pregnancy <3

  • Aww Ariana, I teared up reading this. Not because there is anything wrong with him, but because I don't want you to feel like it's your fault. My heart goes out to you. Even minor things like this can be emotional. It is not your fault. Both of my boys in a sense have “birth defects”. Carter's autism and Bryce has problems with his joints overextending (we have done a lot to strengthen his legs so he doesn't fall down every few minutes and hurt his knees) and was born with hypospadias. Bryce also had double surgery for hernias at 18 months and his little fingers are very crooked. I was doing everything the Dr's told me to do and I know you are, too. He will be perfectly fine. We all have some type of medical issue – his is just early in his life.

    Btw, I found a Moby Wrap at a consignment store for $24! I love it and can't wait to use it.

  • I love your attitude about your baby's “birth defect”! I wish more people would have that attitude! He is a perfect gift from God and will be happy and healthy!

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