The drawback of homeschooling for me.
Having my kids around all of the time.
I don’t know where I thought I’d go with this topic. Sharing the negative can be great for some reasons but personally I’ve never been good at doing it in a way that doesn’t come off as complaining.
Who could get tired of being with such cute kids all day?
From the first day of hearing about homeschooling I felt like I needed to make a choice. A choice to homeschool, to send my kids to private school, or to send them to public school.
With most things I consciously plan, a pros and cons list is my go to means of decision making.
In the early days I had ten or twenty pros for homeschooling and one con: never getting away from the kids.
Today my list would have many, many more pros and still that one con:
Never getting away from the kids.
Having my children with me all day every day impacts everything about my life.
The kids are there when I clean, when I cook, when I make calls, when I run errands, and they even try to be there when I use the bathroom! ha
They are there for 12 hours of my day. 7 days a week. 365 days a year.
(More like 363 days since Allan’s parents watch the kids sometimes)
Most of the time I really enjoy being with my kids. We have a lot of fun together.
75-84 hour weeks, however, really take a toll on me. I don’t possess an infinite amount of patience. I don’t even possess enough patience for a 50 or 60 hour week!
I have internal breakdowns from the stress several times a week.
Once in a while (three or four times a week) it gets to be too much internally and I will be moody with my kids, almost always in the late afternoons.
After 4pm is the worst time. If you were in my home during that time of day there’s a strong chance you’d hearing any of the following:
“No more talking to mommy for 15 minutes. I’m now on a break, go play.”
“I really don’t care about _____ and don’t want to talk about it anymore today.”
“If you come into my kitchen while I’m making dinner you won’t get any. I’m cooking alone right now.”
“Quiet time in your bedroom until dinner is ready. Go.”
“I don’t want you to open your mouth for 5 minutes.”
“I don’t want you to open your mouth or make any sound for 5 minutes.”
It definitely gets to me having to do everything every day.
I’ve had women tell me that they could never homeschool because they couldn’t handle being with their kids all day long.
Oh do I get that!
Almost every day as I kiss the kids goodnight I look back at everything I did that day with all the chaos that accompanied it and wonder how I managed to do it with a smile and pleasant voice (except maybe that wretched hour between 4 and 5pm) when my inner feelings at times were anything but pleasant.
Over the years I’ve come up with lots of “helps” to get me through the patience-ran-out phases.
Today around 4:45pm all three kids were being psychotic (they always get hyper and loud before dinner) and I was just exhausted from doing so much so I told them I was going to the bathroom but I really sat in there on the floor and ate a mini hershey’s bar! (Not in the toilet room, yuck, in the main part of the bathroom!)
I don’t know how to sum up this post since it’s just random talking about a certain struggle I have with homeschooling, but I will say that it has gotten better as I go along.
The stress and workload don’t lighten up by any means, but I find myself being able to handle a lot more in a more mellow, pleasant way.
I guess that’s just maturity and experience finally catching up 🙂
So I’ll end with… despite being very productive, doing lots of fun things with the kids and enjoying and being pleasant with them the vast majority of the time, I do struggle, at times I struggle a whole heck of a lot, it’s just part of life, part of homeschooling life, part of motherhood.
Oh and the good things about having my kids home all day and homeschooling them far and away outweigh that one [huge] bad part.
More on that at the end of summer, of course! 🙂